Saturday, October 22, 2016

Why it is Fine to not want kids...

As I near 34 in the next couple days my family has been driving me crazy with questions about having kids. Like being married isn't enough. I'm pretty sure before I got married my family thought I was going to be the dreaded cat lady. I could have brought home a serial killer to marry and no one would have cared. Further more, there is nothing wrong with being single either. I was happy living on my own. Although as luck would have it I found someone who meshed well with me. We laughed at the same things. Made fun of the same people and had the same views about having kids. I am not completely opposed to the idea but I am definitely not forcing it.

A few good points I came up with for not having children..

1. No Saving for College
Kids are pretty expensive even without them going to college. I am still paying off my college degree. Although I guess we could do what my parents did and not save at all for their children's future. I paid for most of my college on my own. I cant really blame my dad though he was pretty busy just keeping food on the table. I would try and save like most parents do these days but it would be hard and put a burden on the finances. Not to mention the fact that college keeps getting more expensive every year.

2. Vacation whenever we want
I fully enjoy our vacations that we actually get to go on. Especially the ones on the beach. We don't have to have anyone watch the kids or worry about schedules. And as much as everyone tells you they will be there for you, it just doesn't happen. Say goodbye to any vacation that does not involve large mouses or being stuck at a water park with a million other kids and their horrible looking parents.

And my favorite reason....

I felt like I had to bold it because I consider sleep the most important reason. I love my sleep. I have appreciated sleep for as far back as I can remember. If I want to take a nap in the middle of the day I do. Part of being an adult with no kids. I already have a job that takes a lot out of me. I at least want to get a good night sleep. I feel like with kids you do not get the sleep you deserve. Or so I hear.

4. My Career
I am really unhappy with the job I have now and I do not want to be one of those people that just stay miserable about their life and do nothing about it. I may be unhappy now but I am working on my next five year plan. It will have me moving up in my career and doing it soon. I am fine doing grunt work if it pays off in the end.

Thursday, October 20, 2016


Okay so I know I posted about this show in one of my earlier posts but I had to write a more detailed review. The more I watch the show the more I absolutley love it. My love of the show started with the female lead of course. Her name is Hayes and she has issues which is cool because that is what makes her interesting. She doesnt take any crap from anyone. She doesnt care who you are. Status means nothing to her. She barely trusts anyone at this point. I think she is slowly trusting her team but it will take some time.

I love how each character has a backstory that the audience has yet to find out about. They each have their secrets.

I feel like like Tess is pretty broken and she is just trying to make up for something. She really wants to prove herself. And I love that actor since she was on The Walking Dead.

Do not trust this guy...yet.

Or this guy..

Friday, October 14, 2016

Classes I wish were offered in my high school..

There are so many things that happen to you after high school that no one warns you about. And yes being an adult can suck that life out of anyone. I am in my thirties and I am still not sure about a lot of things. I google most of it but before that I asked my parents.

Being Smart with Credit
This is a huge one. Before I applied for my first credit card after high school I recieved lots of advice for my dad. He was full of information about the use of credit. I just only wish I would have listened to him. I have made many mistakes when it comes to credit but I am at least learning for my mistakes. I feel like the most limit one should have have or need is 2000. Any more than that is asking for trouble. 2000 is managable. And do not use your credit card to live off of. Pay off your credit card each month and do not let the balance roll over. That is where the banks get all there money. Interest rates are evil. If it is your first card ever, more than likely you will have a high rate of interest. So if you can help it do not carry a balance on your card. And as tempteming as it may be sometimes never get cash of your card. The interest rate is crazy and it is hard to pay off.

Paying for College
If you are planning on going to college having a class like this would be amazing. I really wish someone had told me about all the options out there to help pay for school. When I was in high school I assumed thay my dad would pay for my schooling not really thinking about his finances. He did help me some and I recieved a few grants to help pay. I also realize that if I would have stayed at home longer with the parents I would have saved so much money. So if you are in the same area as your school live at home. Also the buying textbooks is a racket that is making tons of people tons of money. If you want to save money do not just go straight to the campus bookstore and buy your books. Go to one of the many online bookstores that have cheaper books and maybe older editions that work just fine but do not cost 100s of dollars. College students are not rich. They should realize that. I like for cheap books but there are many other sites available.

Being Healthy while being poor
This is still something I have not mastered. I still find myself coming home and eating ramon noodles like I am still a college student. My diet is so horrible right now. I grew up with a single dad so I have no training when it comes to cooking. Most of my food is processed and frozen. I also hate cooking but I would be willing to learn if it was healthier.

What is 401K?
So my retirement is something to laugh at right now. I am in my 30s and my savings is not where it should be. I feel like there should have been a class in high school that let me know the importance of having a retirement account. Everytime I leave a job I end up cashing out my 401k to use on bills until my next job. I realize that I should not be thinking about now but later. I feel like it is hard for me to care about later when the now is what  I am having trouble with.

Monday, October 10, 2016

My fav new shows

I am usually not one that actually watches shows as they come on. I am more of a netflix binger that watches the seasons a season behind. There is only one show that I watch as it comes on tv an that is Arrow because it is awesome and I love the shirtless scenes so much....

Although I do love the Arrow I have actually found two new shows this season that I am absolutely in love with. 

This Is Us
The first show I discovered was This is Us. I started the first episode because I heard so much online about how awesome it was. I am not one that really enjoys feel good shows but this one actually moved me which is hard to do. It is hard to explain why but I loved it. The family dynamics was so nice and the whole story was so moving. I definitely recommend watching this show. The first two eps are still on hulu and are amazing.

I started watching the first episode last night for no reason except I was bored. I really enjoyed it. It has a little happiness and a lot of good writing. Every character has something about them that we have to continue to learn about. The lead character is so dimensional. She makes the show. I love her so far. And I thought I had family issues. What is it about having bad families that make characters more interesting. Not really sure but I enjoy it because I can understand it.

Tuesday, October 4, 2016

A Shade of Vampire

A couple weeks ago I told myself that I was going to start reading more. The first book I choose just by reading the description and reviews. It was called A Shade of Vampire. I know the vampire thing has been done to death but the description of the book really made me want to read it. So I purchased it and it sat on my phone for about a week before I decided to actually read. I am really bad at hoarding books without reading them. I really have no idea why I do that except the feeling I get from being in a book store is euphoric for me. So I will spend hours just perusing but I have to buy something and that is how the hoarding began. Well this week I was stuck at work bored so I started reading and I just could not stop. For two days I was wrapped up in this story. I could not stop. I finished it in just two settings. The main character of this book is named Sofia and she has such a sad start at life. Some of the anxiety she feels I completely understood. I could symphathize with what she was going through. I am not sure when the story turned into a romance novel but I was very happy it did. The author has an amazing skill of bringing all the characters together and making the reader root for them. Even though Sofia is in this horrible place the author has a way of making her stronger being here alone. I have always admired the way authors can write their characters to be more than one dimensional. There are things about Sofia that make her special and make the reader root for her. There are also things about the other main character Derek that make him likable even when we should not. You will definetley get lost in this story. I added a link below if you decide to buy it.

Sunday, October 2, 2016

I sold my soul to evil retail....

I always feel bad when I am not able to update my blog but this has seriously been the week from hell. In all my years I told myself that no matter what happens I will never work at wal-mart ever again. I worked at a wal-mart in Tulsa when I was in my early 20s and even though they treat you like shit and you have to deal with sub-par managers who think they are GOD, I was ok working there. Mainly because I knew that it was only temporary and when I finished school I would do something bigger and better. So I ultimately lasted 6 months at Wal-mart the first time and I moved on with my life. I finished my degree, got married and moved away to better things I thought.

Well my husband got a better job and we had to relocate to a place that had way too many people with degrees and not enough jobs. So my husband has found his calling and I am stuck working at a pharmacy in the wal-mart. Most days this week I come home wishing I was dead and having no respect for the public I work with. I seriously feel like I have taken a step back in my life. I have only been there a week but I already want to move on. My boss told me I had to work the weekend ten minutes before I was about to leave Friday which sucked. I am about to start avoiding her calls on Friday so I she can not find me.

Sunday I spent 8 hours of my life helping people who really did not appreciate it and who were bitchy, Spent 30 minutes trying figure out why someones prescription went from 3 to 8 dollars. OMG deal with it. There are people that spend way more than that. Do not waste my time. The rest of my day was spent trying to help people find random things around Wal-mart. I work in the pharmacy people not the shoe department. I never realized how stupid people were. 

I may not survive this coming week or I may be dramatic as my husband believes. Ill try not to have all my blog posts be about my new horrible job.